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Mothering love for children   Leave a comment

A Christian Science perspective by Michelle Boccanfuso Nanouche

Recognizing that all of us reflect divine Love’s care can contribute to a secure and healthy environment for our children.

 

At the time our daughter started the fourth grade in a new school, I was traveling extensively for work….Although she had a hands-on dad who happily covered all the bases, I bore much guilt, and this led to a combination of hovering over her when I was home and worrying when I was away. Seeking to eliminate the guilt and its unhealthy effects, I began to consider more deeply my role as her mother.

shutterstock_76332532I thought of some of the things I’d learned through my study of Christian Science – for instance, that we are all created by God, each reflecting the nature and qualities of our divine source. From this I understood that we reflect God, divine Love, in unlimited ways. God is the infinite, illimitable Mother of us all – not as a person, but as the universal presence of Love. God’s mothering care is   always with us to guide, protect, cheer, cherish, uplift, and support.

As I considered God as the true, spiritual Mother of each of us, I recognized that this was true for my daughter, too. Of course I had a responsibility to care for her. But I saw that mothering isn’t limited to one person’s physical presence. We each have an unbreakable relation to our divine Mother, who cares for us at all times and in all the ways necessary for us to thrive. My role as my daughter’s mom could include being a witness to her spiritual nature as a child of God. This idea brought me peace and light, because I knew I could be that spiritual witness at any time and in any place.

 

This article was published in The Christian Science Monitor, read it here

 

My Sleepover – Saved!   Leave a comment

P1030965I was around my friend’s house for a sleepover and suddenly felt very sick, so I ran into the bathroom. My friend knocked on the door and asked if she could get me anything. I asked her to get my cellphone. My mum always supported me to pray, whenever I had a difficulty, and encouraged me to talk to the Christian Science practitioner who had prayed for me before. So before calling my mum, I decided to call this practitioner. I knew it wasn’t right that my sleepover be wrecked. I took a stand and decided that this sickness was like a “sneaky snake” trying to make me believe something bad was true about me.

I rang the practitioner and she told me that I was at one with God, and God was my friend. A friend would never hurt me. So God could never let me be hurt. I hung up the phone, and sat there thinking about what she had said. I thought about how I was the “reflection of perfection,” which was something my mum always says.

Lauren is a 12 year old student who attends a Christian Science Sunday School.  Read the full text of her article, My Sleepover – Saved!, where she describes how she calmly handled this incident and was quickly healed.

Have More Patience! It’s Good for Your Health   Leave a comment

beverlys-picAt this time of year, life can be very hectic. Holidays are over. It’s back-to-school and back-to-work time for many families. Teachers are making preparations. Parents are working hard to establish a smooth daily routine that enables them to get their children up and out-the-door on time. Such an undertaking can be a challenge! As one father said, “Getting kids ready for school each day would test the patience of a Saint”. What’s the answer? Have MORE patience. It’s good for your health.

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HAVE MORE PATIENCE

Teachers, parents, and child-minding grandparents, often need truckloads of patience. Why? Because this relationship-smoothing, health-giving quality of thought produces well-balanced, harmonious, daily activity. It fosters calmness, and enables us to be tolerant of delays or problems, without becoming angry or upset. Patience is so valuable and needed these days that it’s considered to be a virtue – a character trait that’s not only morally good, but very desirable in every person.

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– Overcome frustrating family situations with patience. Stay calm. Don’t let anyone or anything upset you.

– Master the art of patience. Embrace it more fully. Patience helps build emotional and spiritual maturity. It produces a better balanced mental state and attitude to family life. It enables you to move through stressful times with grace and poise.

– Have patience with learning, and with learners. Be prepared to teach kids what they have to do as part of the daily routine. Establish a logical order for the day ahead. In time you’ll build helpful attitudes and practices, and achieve a smooth running household.

– In dealing with a difficult, or grumpy family member, resist the impulse to react. Stay calm-and-collected. “Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” Bible James 1:19

– Remind yourself that you have an abundance of self-control. You have patience. You’ve been created a cool, composed, unruffled person. You have equanimity – evenness of mind. You’re mentally balanced.

– If confronted with willfulness or disobedience, take a deep breath. Stay loving. A loving attitude helps you stay patient, calm. It helps you keep an emotional balance. Love “…is not easily provoked”. Bible 1 Corinthians 13:5

– Remember what’s most needed from all of us – parents, children and teachers, is “… growth in grace, expressed in patience, meekness, love, and good deeds.” – Mary Baker Eddy, Science and Health p.4

– Be calm. Resolve delays or problems without becoming angry or upset. Be proactive. Have MORE patience. You’ll find it’s good for your health.

This article was contributed by Beverly Goldsmith who is a former secondary school teacher and is now a health blogger and a practitioner and teacher of Christian Science healing.

Classes with a Difference   Leave a comment

shutterstock_75083293Children today are growing up in a vastly different world to the one their parents experienced.  The fast pace of technological change, the lure of social media, the prevalence of alcohol, the easy availability of drugs and even the sensational reporting of world events all put pressures on our youth.

Today more than ever our young people need to have a strong moral compass to help them make wise decisions, and an inner resilience that helps them meet life’s challenges and rise above adversity.

Hara Estroff Marano, Editor-at-Large for Psychology Today, wrote in her article “The Art of Resilience”:

“At the heart of resilience is a belief in oneself—yet also a belief in something larger than oneself.  Resilient people do not let adversity define them.  They find resilience by moving towards a goal beyond themselves, transcending pain and grief …”

So how do we fortify our children and develop in them an understanding of their innate ability to rise above adversity?  At the Christian Science Sunday School we do just that.  In small groups with a teacher, students discuss the qualities that make life work. Lessons are based around the Ten Commandments and the teachings of Jesus including the Lord’s Prayer.  Students discuss the issues that come up in their own lives in light of these invaluable moral guides.

Classes for students from pre-school up to age 20 are held every Sunday at 10.00 am.  Babies are cared for in the creche.  New students are always welcome.

The Sunday School is located with the Christian Science Church at the corner of Macquarie and Bligh Streets in Barton.

 

Effective Parenting   Leave a comment

$ dreamstime_1085738In this JSH-Online.com audio podcast, adapted for print, Christian Science practitioner and teacher Sarah Hyatt spoke with Audio Producer Rita Polatin.

Q:  Parents want the best for their children—a good education, proper care, love, happiness—but, as you know, being a parent, oftentimes along the way problems come up that we don’t always know the answer to. So, as a Christian Scientist, how have you approached the role of parent?

A: …

Click here to read Sarah’s answers to questions that confront all parents.  Sarah shares how her spiritual perspective has helped her parent with more confidence and brought harmony to her relationship with her children.

Click here to listen to a podcast of this original interview.

This interview was originally published in the August 2016 Christian Science Journal.

“I’d Like to go to Sunday School …”   Leave a comment

shutterstock_36849880For me the most vital concept of Christian Science is God as Father-Mother.  My love for this idea goes back to my first involvement with the church.

You see, my parents were having serious problems in their marriage, and I was deeply troubled about this.

When I was twelve, one of my friends asked if I could visit for the weekend, which would mean going to a Christian Science Sunday School with her.

On Sunday morning there I was in a class of girls about my age, and the teacher talked the whole time about God as our Father-Mother.  She made it clear that God was the Father and Mother of my mom and dad, just as He was of me.  She explained how this Father-Mother loves all His children, and knows nothing but harmony for them.  Little did she realize what that meant to me.  I came out of that hour all fired up, and I went home and talked to my mother the whole week about this Sunday School.

I wanted to go back, Read more

This article,I’d like to go to Sunday School …” by Jacquelyn Mattson, was originally published in the Christian Science Sentinel.   It is now available on JHS-online.   In it Jacquelyn talks about how the simple truths she learned in Sunday School protected her and with her mother’s acceptance of God as loving Father-Mother, family harmony was restored.

 

Reliable Parenting Books   Leave a comment

parents read book with sonMy husband and I entered parenthood knowing almost nothing about raising kids, having grown up basically as “only” children. We did read some parenting books, but their theories often seemed less than helpful.  It wasn’t long before we decided the most practical, day-by-day parenting approach for us was prayer.

Even though my husband and I were then members of different faiths, we both naturally gravitated to the Bible as a parenting handbook.  We read the Scriptures together as a family every day, even when our son and daughter were infants, believing that if we gave them a strong moral and spiritual education, everything else would turn out all right.  The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). …

…But we also learned we couldn’t preach to our kids about turning to God.  We had to “walk the walk,” not just talk about it.  The Christian Science Sunday School taught our children Moses’ Ten Commandments, as well as the Lord’s Prayer and the Sermon on the Mount.  But as parents, we needed to practice those great teachings. And if we didn’t, believe me, our kids noticed!  Read more

This article, Reliable Parenting Books by Mary Trammell, was originally published in the Christian Science Sentinel.   It is now available on JHS-online.  In it Mary talks about how the Bible and the Christian Science textbook, “Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures” by Mary Baker Eddy, provided guidance for them as parents and helped all members of the family develop a strong moral compass and healthier happier lives.

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